The research
Sex research is younger than the aeroplane, and it spent its first decades asking the wrong people the wrong questions. What survived the bad methods is a small, solid set of findings -- and they are not the ones that get quoted in magazines.
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The orgasm gap is real, and it is not about anatomy
It closes almost completely between women in same-sex relationships.
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More sex stops helping at about once a week
Above that, the association with wellbeing flattens completely.
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The most famous sex statistic came from a broken sample
Kinsey’s 10 per cent was never a population figure.
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No human pheromone has ever been identified
Smell matters to attraction. That is a different claim.
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Somebody measured it with a stopwatch
500 couples, five countries, and a number far below the guess.
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Desire often follows arousal rather than preceding it
The model everyone was taught had the sequence backwards.Browse by shelf
A shop has two hundred of them. One of them is right for you.
Seven questions: who it is for, what sounds appealing, how quiet it has to be, what it may cost. Out comes one type — with what to look for, what it costs, and what nobody prints on the box.
- Sixteen types, from a bullet vibrator to a blindfold
- No brands, no shop, nothing for sale here
- Two minutes, and nothing is saved
Find out what you both want — without either of you saying it first.
You each answer twenty questions on your own, and neither of you ever sees the other’s answers. Only what you both said yes or maybe to comes back. A no and a maybe look identical from outside, so saying no costs nothing — which is what makes the answers honest.
- Six sets of twenty questions — three by depth, three by subject
- An evening you can actually plan, built from what you agreed on
- No account, no names, and it deletes itself after a few days
General information, not medical advice. Anything persistent or painful belongs with a doctor, who has heard it before.