Health
Nothing in this section is exciting, and that is the point. The things that most reliably ruin someone's sex life are boring, common, and almost always fixable once somebody says them out loud.
75%
Pain during sex is common, and never something to accept
Three quarters of women experience it. Most causes are treatable.
45%
Most condom failures are fit, not manufacturing
Breakage is rare. Slipping off the wrong size is not.
3
Silicone lubricant destroys silicone toys
The single most expensive thing people learn by ruining something.
3.8–4.5pH
The vagina cleans itself, and washing it causes the problem
Douching raises the risk of exactly the infection it is meant to prevent.
88%
A vaccine that prevents a cancer, with the numbers in
1.7 million women followed. The effect is not subtle.
12weeks
The pelvic floor is a muscle, and it responds to training
The evidence is strong, and the timescale is longer than people expect.Browse by shelf
A shop has two hundred of them. One of them is right for you.
Seven questions: who it is for, what sounds appealing, how quiet it has to be, what it may cost. Out comes one type — with what to look for, what it costs, and what nobody prints on the box.
- Sixteen types, from a bullet vibrator to a blindfold
- No brands, no shop, nothing for sale here
- Two minutes, and nothing is saved
Find out what you both want — without either of you saying it first.
You each answer twenty questions on your own, and neither of you ever sees the other’s answers. Only what you both said yes or maybe to comes back. A no and a maybe look identical from outside, so saying no costs nothing — which is what makes the answers honest.
- Six sets of twenty questions — three by depth, three by subject
- An evening you can actually plan, built from what you agreed on
- No account, no names, and it deletes itself after a few days
General information, not medical advice. Anything persistent or painful belongs with a doctor, who has heard it before.